Dan Gilbert on Setting Goals for Who You’ll Be
“The reason most of us are unhappy most of the time is that we set our goals not for the person we’re going to be when we reach them — we set our goals for the person we are when we set them.”
“The reason most of us are unhappy most of the time is that we set our goals not for the person we’re going to be when we reach them — we set our goals for the person we are when we set them.”
“What you are asking at this stage has changed the project considerably from the documentation and the scoping process that we undertook and has been approved. We could continue, but I believe it would jeopardize the quality and the integrity of what needs to be delivered. If what you are suggesting is vital to the project, and cannot be handled as a phase two, then I would like to stop the project now so that this new addition can be properly scoped and integrated, rather than tacked on. To continue without re-scoping, may cause unforeseen problems later, which could be quite costly. However, you must understand that to stop now will affect timelines and budgets. How would you like us to proceed?”
Before Jim Coudal and team take on any new project, they ask themselves these three questions.
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“Congratulations, you’re a narcissist.”
B. Kelly
I feel buffeted at the moment, rising and falling at the whim of ambition, understanding, a sense of meaning, a sense of meaningless, vanity, ego, a desire to create, a desire to be recognized, a sense of bigness, a sense of smallness…
I have my “industry.” I’m a blogger. I have blogger friends and read blogger books and study blogger businesses and want to build a successful blogger business.
I know, pretty cool, right?
All this blogger business thinking has been spinning up an engine in me that’s ready to power something. I’m thinking big and thinking I’m special and thinking about how to become more special and thinking and thinking…
I have this one friend who had some success with an eBook. He’s a family guy. He thinks blogger thoughts too, but they’re tempered a bit more than mine. He’s one of these classic nerd bloggers, the best kind. The kind that had an audience long before there was a business plan. Love those guys.
He tried not to be too ambitious. I think his reality is such that he can’t; you can only get so far away from home. I resonate with that.
Side Note: this friend doesn’t understand someone having the goal of travelling around with a laptop and running a business teaching people how to travel around with a laptop. “Congratulations, you’re a narcissist,” he says. I kind of want to tattoo that on the back of my hand.
I have this other friend who wrote some books and got super famous in a Christian subculture. They were good books. I have all of them. One of them is signed. Deal with it.
This other friend thinks real big. He’s the kind of guy that get’s asked to lead the intro to the Democratic National Convention. He says I should pay attention to people like Benjamin Franklin and Thomas Jefferson instead of people like Tim Ferriss and Seth Godin.
He’s ambitious and thinks big, but there’s a humanness to it. It’s a weird balance and I’m not quite sure what the deal is with it, but I sense there’s a good path down that way.
This guy wrote a simple post recently. He nailed it. And at the end of the post he lists off, in very simple terms, the rules of business. He says they haven’t changed. I think he’s right.
I think there’s something about these two guys, something in the way they’re looking at their thing, some sort of signpost for me. A way through this ambition/meaning/bigness/smallness. Their stories seem to ask me, “why are you thinking about that?”
Anyways, here’s those rules.
“I know you read a Seth Godin book convincing you you could be a billionaire by creating a tribe. And you read a Timothy Ferris book convincing you you could work four hours a week and be rich. Guess what? Both of those guys work as tirelessly as depression-era farmers. They do this because the laws of the universe haven’t changed. You have to work to eat. And you have to work hard.
And let me add this. Sell out. Scrub a toilet. Nothing is beneath you.
I’ve watched scores of twenty-somethings quit their jobs and start businesses based on books written by people who sell fantasies. These writers tell one story about a guy who bought an island because he created some online business and convinced people they could do it too.
Don’t be fooled. The chances of that happening to you are about the same as winning the lottery. Writers are making millions by convincing people they can win the lottery too.”
“If they come, you will build it.”
“The sane human being is satisfied that the best he/she can do at any given moment is the best he/she can do at any given moment.”
“The function of the overwhelming majority of your artwork is simply to teach you how to make the small fraction of your artwork that soars.”
This is from a book about making art. I don’t know who these authors are but they really nailed something for me.
I’ll only make a few pieces of truly good stuff over the course of my life.
That’s the reality.
I could break my head over trying to epic-ize everything I make. I could reach for celebrity and recognition through lots of truly great things, getting broody, moody and horribly not fun in the process.
Or I can make this thing the best I can right now. It’s not me. I’m not it. There’s some sort of exchange going on between me and it, but neither of us are each other. So let’s keep it casual.
Because any sane person knows that the best you can do right now is the best you can do right now.
This is embarrassing to admit, but when I read this I first thought about my tweets.
Before pushing “publish” on a tweet I typically have a moment of, “c’mon. Nobody cares about this. This isn’t funny. Make something funny and post that. Is this the kind of thing Merlin would post?”
But I’ve been wondering recently if I won’t look back and wish I shared more. If 20 years from now I’ll read through the archives and wished I just tried more stuff.
This quote hits me with reality, balances me. I might make a few good tweets over the course of my life. The shitty ones will help me get there.
I mean, these are fucking tweets we’re talking about.
Oh, and art. We’re also talking about art. Which is kinda like business to me. So that too.
“And don’t worry about losing. If it is right, it happens—The main thing is not to hurry. Nothing good gets away.”